Why would you abuse someone you love?
DOMESTIC ABUSE includes (sexual violence and spousal abuse)
Other reasons for domestic abuse:
1.) Financial problems– especially under the striking balance between men and women
2.)Family Problems
3.) Women’s Safety in the society: How should women prevent themselves from being harmed?
4.) Relationship Problems– (when one cheated on another)
5.) Unbalanced role between men and women
GIRLS ARE MOSTLY VICTIMS:
Despite the constant growth in economy, the underlying dangers in the society are still inevitable. Seeing all these cases of domestic abuse, I can’t help but feel sorry for the victims. Some of them were killed by their boyfriend or partner, others ended up in critical conditions that ruined their whole life. I can relate to those cases where the victim was abused by their boyfriend as I was once under a similar situation.
My ex- boyfriend attempted to abuse me when we broke up. When he heard my words, he instantly became furious. At that moment, I knew I shouldn’t have broken up with him in his room; I should have chosen a safer place like a public area to protect myself. He became very emotional and clenched his fist tightly. Then he glared at me for a long time. Slowly, he started walking towards me. It was the first time that I felt threatened and endangered. I ran for the door immediately. Although he kept texting me to apologize for losing his temper, I never replied. From that day on, we never spoke to each other again.
Another experience was from my friend in Hong Kong. She suggested breaking up with her boyfriend inside his apartment. Seeing that her boyfriend was shaking with anger, my friend attempted to leave his apartment. Unluckily, her boyfriend caught her. He just simply couldn’t accept the breakup. So instead of accepting it, he decided to keep her with him physically. While struggling from his imprisonment, he attacked her with a knife, and slashed her arm and left. She ended in the hospital for 2 days and he was filed for domestic violence.
In Hong Kong, issues of domestic abuse have doubled in the first three months of 2012, and the exponential growth of these statistics frightens me. Even in a developed place like Hong Kong, the cases of domestic abuse are growing at jet speed, what about those under-developed places?
In some cases, the victims can heal from their physical damages, but what about their mental health? It is inevitable that domestic abuse will leave marks in one’s life. In some serious cases, domestic abuse have left permanent marks in victim’s lives.
Women’s Safety in Hong Kong:
How should women protect themselves from being harmed?
I don’t think the government in Hong Kong has enough coverage to protect families from domestic abuse. One of the main reasons why people cannot get enough help is that they do not dare to seek for help. Instead, they wait and pray for potential help. Even if they get help in the end, the actual work that can be done is minimal, as the damages are made. Actually, the delay of help can be prevented. Instead of waiting to receive help, women who suffer from family violence should go to charity organizations like the Caritas for immediate help and support. It is also important to encourage friends or neighbours in need to seek help from social workers. There is no use to hide in the dark! The only way to live a new life is to make a first step, to get rid of the family violence!
A lot of people may say, “I can’t! I just can’t! I can’t let my spouse go to jail.”
But if they harm you, why would you defend them?
Here is what women need:
– To protect their own rights
– To live their own life
– To have a healthy relationship.
Remember: Women are no longer subordinate by men nor a property of them!
The Chinese traditional views have affected people mentally and physically.
DOMESTIC ABUSE MUST BE TAKEN IN CONSIDERATION!
Here is what women need:
– To protect their own rights
– To live their own life
– To have a healthy relationship.
Remember: Women are no longer subordinate by men or a property of them!
The Chinese traditional views have affected people mentally and physically.
DOMESTIC ABUSE MUST BE TAKEN IN CONSIDERATION!
A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CASE THAT I FOUND BRUTAL:
One of the most brutal domestic violence cases that shocked me was a case that happened last year at Tin Shui Wai, Hong Kong, where most residence have a very low income. A man found out that his wife cheated on him, to release his anger,he slashed his wife with a knife for more than 100 times without stopping. Their children hid in the wardrobe when the incident happened, but through the gaps they saw their father slashing their mother. The man jumped off the building afterwards. After the incident, the victim’s children creeped out from the wardrobe and saw their mother lying on the floor tainted with blood. From what they described, they saw most of the cuts on their mother’s face. This incident brought the children long term fear and pain; and the young child has to meet the psychologist for further treatment and therapy. This case of domestic violence not only led to the loss of one’s life, but also gave a permanent scar to the children. Not only did they lose their family, they also had to witness such brutal acts performed in front of them. Even with the help of psychologists, the children will have to live under the shadow of this case. The mental damage brought to the children cannot be measured.
(Celebrity Domestic Abuse: Mr. Law Chung Him (middle person) attempted to beat Theresa after their breakup.)
Teenage Problems in Hong Kong 